A couple of years ago, during a rooftop dinner in Chelsea celebrating Eric Ripert’s PBS show, Avec Eric, Martha Stewart was overheard complaining to her dinner companions, “I can’t get a date. ”It’s a familiar complaint uttered by single women all over New York.There are blogs, endless newspaper columns, and television shows devoted to the hapless single lady looking for love.“A really powerful, high-caliber woman, when it comes to her personal life, she should make it as private as possible,” she says.
That sentiment is echoed by Amber Kelleher, head of Kelleher International, who adds: “What’s hard for women is you don’t know if the guy you just met is married or has a stable job. And as these women spend so much time at work, there is a lack of exposure. They go to the gym in the morning—not a great idea to date someone at the gym. ”But with more money comes more problems.“Men are intimidated by high-powered women,” says Kelleher, who has worked with Lady Victoria Hervey and Tia Carrera. Because of the nature of the city itself and working, you have a tougher skin.
If it doesn’t work out, then you have to change schedules or gyms. There’s always an edge.”And as many of the wealthy women are well known, their public persona can stymie the process.“People like Martha Stewart’s reputation precedes them,” Kelleher added.
’ She walked away and my client said, ‘Did you see what just happened? But while it may have worked for these three, such role reversals don’t always take.“I get divorced women saying ‘I spent 20 years supporting my husband and I can’t do that again,’” says Kelleher. “A lot of women, if they’re older, want to date younger men at first,” says Kelleher.
Like Jennifer Lopez, who after splitting with Marc Anthony started dating Casper Smart, a dancer 20 years her junior, “women emerging onto the dating scene will typically gravitate toward much younger men,” Griffith says.
Now anybody else, an older woman would have been so embarrassed, apologized, or been shocked. All guys want is somebody who is soft, feminine, who feels good. Women in New York are survivalists.”Ah, that old nugget again. Perhaps that’s why many powerful women end up in role-reversal situations.