Unfortunately, there is a false sense of security that exists in cell-phone text messaging: It almost always feels as though the words sent and received in a text will not venture into dangerous open waters. There is no shallow end to stand on or wall to grab onto.
What is sent and received in a text-based world can easily trigger our deepest, darkest feelings and desires, surfacing them in a conversation that began harmlessly.
However, I probably don’t have to tell you that too much can be dangerous—especially privacy with someone of the opposite sex.
We learn early on in Scripture that the heart is deceitful above all things.
(Jeremiah 17:9) Too often in text messaging, particularly with the opposite sex, insignificant words are sent that are consciously and unconsciously linked to more significant emotional or sexual roots in the heart; roots that are intended to remain deeply rooted in a marriage instead outside of it.
I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard stories of married men and women texting outside their marriage with the opposite sex and it began innocently, discussing topics about their kids’ school or their spouse’s new job, and then all of a sudden finding themselves in a heated conversation about how their spouse doesn’t want to talk about their feelings or that they noticed the other at the gym, commenting on how they like their tight-fitting gym clothes.
Opening these conversation doors allows infidelity the opportunity to advertise itself.
Jeremiah communicated how deceitful the heart can be, even for one who thinks they have control of their heart.