This is our agreement." "You can't be around chemicals, so you have to sweep, vacuum, and do the laundry." Getting emotional usually frustrates and/or shuts my husband down. Sure we didnt know I had as when we got married or for years but it sure helps to know and learn how to communicate better.* Anonymous said...Once I learned to take a step back, breathe, and think of a reasonable argument in a calm, low tone, things got SO much better. I'll talk from your hubsnd's perspective, if you'll permit.
If there is open communication, the NT partner can help her Aspie to improve in areas of weakness and encourage him in the things he is naturally good at. Aspies often has a specific area of weakness in marriage.
They often do not feel the need to express love, and the NT partner can help them understand that this is important. As young adults, they are often emotionally immature and have poor social skills.
The key is two people who want to keep trying.• Anonymous said… It's easy for people to say "everyone is wired differently" but let's be honest - that puts the burden on the non-aspie partner to figure out how to deal because the aspie really cannot contribute to resolving the language barrier that happens in this situation.
And there is a significant amount that is lost in translation leaving the non- aspire partner feeling not understood, not cared for and even unloved.
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