Be blessed - Imam Suhaib Webb, The Lesser Of 2 Evils, 2013* 'You see, we often misunderstand the hadith of the Prophet ﷺ where he said, “Marry a woman for four reasons…” This also means, “Marry a man for four reasons…” Unfortunately no one tells the sisters this, so they sometimes think men get to choose and they don’t.
We may deny that social ranking means nothing to us but there is a difference between marrying the daughter of a farmer and the daughter of a professor, or a woman who is a farmer and another who is the professor.
Most Muslim men do not use status as a measure of success for potential wives but they do tend to look into it for reasons of prestige and influence.
This is why women are drawn to a mans' character first (inner beauty) while most men require a visual beauty, that's packed with stimulating contents.
When men say they are looking for "religious" wives they each refer to very different attributes.
But the problem here is that Muslim men do not know how to articulate this very personal criteria appropriately.